Sweet and Lowe’s

I’m working on my blog, minding my own business, on a Sunday afternoon. The phone rings.

It’s Terry.

He’s calling from Odessa, where he and the brother and sister that are still on speaking terms are taking care of family business. There is no telling what this might be about, as those three think dangerously alike and any negative aftermath of their actions is tripled.

I answer.

He responds. “Hi Sweetie! I love you!” Immediately, with those 5 words, I’m on red alert. I know him. There is going to be an attempt to involve me in something unsavory.

I take a deep breath. “So, what are you guys up to?”

“Well, we’re here at Lowe’s and Nina and I were looking around at stuff and we were out in the lawn and garden section and Nina found these patio chairs that she really likes but there’s only one and we talked to the guy and he says they won’t be ordering any more ’cause it’s the end of the season for them.”

“Uh huh.”

“Well, so can you run down to our Lowe’s and see it they have any of these chairs? I think they’re just like the ones we have on our patio.”

We have a mix of about 40 different chair styles on our patio, because I’m always going to Lowe’s with the sole intention of replacing one dead plant and instead coming back with furniture and a crate of citronella candles. It’s imperative that we narrow down the destination of this life quest. “Okay. Which exact chairs are we talking about?”

“I think it’s the ones you just got.”

“I bought two different sets the last time. Are you talking about the fake wicker ones, or the fake wood ones, or-”

“These have arms.”

Really? Imagine that. I contemplate having a martini, even though the breakfast dishes are still warm. “Okay. Are the arms curved? Are they metal? Do they have-”

“Oh, wait! Here’s a SKU number.”

Thank gawd. “Okay, go.”

“Okay. Um… 1-4-6-9-1-4. Did you get that? 1-4-6-9-1-4. Wait. No. Yeah, that’s right, 1-4-6-9-1-4. 1-4-6-9-1-4. 1-4-6-”

“I think I’ve got it, poodle.” I take a deep breath and consider my options, because I’m really not in the mood to stop doing what I’m doing now and go do something else. I test-run Plan A, which is to instill a little bit of guilt, an action that helps keep a relationship strong and usually allows one of the partners to remain relatively sane: “I’m still in my jammie pants. I’ve got to shower and all that, so it might take a while.” (Translation: Why are you doing this to me?)

No response. They are on a mission, and we shouldn’t waste any time contemplating the possibility that I may not want to do what they need me to do. After all, exterior decorating is on the line and, as a gay man, I should accept the challenge with grace and manifest destiny, racing out the door as quickly as humanly possible.

So we default to Plan B: “But I’ll hurry, and I’ll call you when I get there.”

“Okay, great. We’ll still be here.” Of course they will. It’s Odessa. West Texas. Going to Lowe’s is one of the few available highlights. You put on lip gloss and you take a picnic basket. That’s just how it is.

So I hop in the shower, slap on something comfortable to wear and head out.

And of course it’s 107 degrees in the shade. I leave a trail of glistening tire rubber on the pavement as I head south. I pull into Lowe’s, and apparently The Pope has stopped by for a shovel and a sermon, because the place is packed.

I claw my way through the mass of unwashed hillbillies and their inbred offspring, all of them fondling a John Deere riding lawn mower like they’ve just seen Jesus in the oil spill under it. I finally make it to the lawn and garden area. I begin my quest.

And I find exactly two lawn chairs with that SKU number, both of them a little banged up and obviously the last dregs. The good ones are all gone. Joy.

I call Terry. “Well, I think I found them.”

“Okay, great, let me head back over to the chairs.” I patiently wait while he apparently bangs his cell phone on any item containing metal during his journey. Three years later, he’s arrived. “OH MY GOD!”

“What?” (Why did I ask that? Do I really want to know?)

“It’s GONE! The chair’s not here anymore!”

I offer comfort, because that’s what my therapist says I should do. “That’s okay. Let’s just make sure we’re talking about the same chair.”

He’s not listening. I can tell by his muffled voice that he’s telling someone who has just walked up “Somebody bought the chair!” I’m assuming it’s Nina. This sidebar conversation continues for a bit, shock and dismay is expressed, somewhere in the afterlife Sylvia Plath begins a new poem about how forcefully life sucks. Then another male voice joins the conversation, presumably his brother Tommy, and again with the “Somebody bought the chair!”

I try to break in. “Okay, this model I’m looking at here is just like one of the batches of chairs I bought for the patio, so I think it’s the right one. How many does she want?”

“She just wants two.”

“Well, there are two here, but they’re pretty beat up. I don’t think that-”

“Somebody bought the chair!” he tells yet another voice that joins the discussion. Okay, we’ve exceeded the number of known relatives in this search party. Is he now involving total strangers in what should be a personal and discreet trauma? Then again, it’s Odessa. There’s not a lot to do on a Sunday afternoon once you’ve praised the Lord and met your quota of racist remarks at the church barbeque. The citizens are yearning for something interesting to happen that will keep them occupied until Fox News airs something that isn’t a repeat.

The 17-way conversation continues, with me throwing in sympathetic tidbits while Terry and Nina determine exactly how they are going to be able to go on with their lives without the chairs that Nina didn’t even know existed two hours ago.

And then, wandering around in the heat and the noise, I turn a random corner, and I’m confronted with towering stacks of the same damn model of chair.

“Um, Terry…”

“Somebody bought the chair!”

Just breathe. “Terry, I’m standing in front of at least 50 of those chairs. So we want two?”

“YES! Two. I can bring them back out here the next time I drive out.”

“Got it. I’ll talk to you later.”

“Love you!”

“Love you, too.”

And of course, the last two lines of conversation make it all worth it. We do what we have to do to make sure our loved ones are happy and have access to stylish seating options. I pocket my phone and head to checkout, dragging two chairs that have no concept of what this relocation plan really means. But it’s all good. The heat, the noise, the inbreeding. John Deere dripping special Christian oil. No biggie, really.

But I will be having that martini.

Just as soon as they get the Pope-Mobile out of my way so I can leave the parking lot…


Originally published in “The Sound and the Fury” on 07/02/09 and “Bonnywood Manor” on 01/15/16. No changes made. Trivia: This is one of the initial (#15!) posts I made during my sporadic and unfocused first year of blogging which was (gulp) 10 years ago. This piece has also been in the dusty “Featured Posts” banner at the top of my blog (I really need to change that thing more often, but I have focus issues) so many of you have already seen it, making this re-post somewhat of a cheat. Still, it was one of my first bits of writing to gain a tiny bit of traction, and in that sense it feels like home. Cheers.


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    • In the torpid Texas heat, rife with zealous insects, citronella candles can be life-saving. Such things don’t always stop the buzzing mini-beasts, but it does at least slow them down somewhat, giving one an opportunity to flee from the scene with some degree of grace and a minimum of cocktail-spilling…

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  1. Oh for a picture of the anointed chairs… (They were individually blessed by the Pope, I assume?) Of course, I’m still spewing coffee at my monitor over ” exterior decorating is on the line and, as a gay man, I should accept the challenge with grace and manifest destiny, racing out the door as quickly as humanly possible.”

    For me, it was the plumbing aisle at Lowes that was my sacred and frequent destination. In fact, once when a Lowes employee witnessed me showing three separate customers the toilet guts they needed, he asked me if I’d like a job there.

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    • The chairs were indeed blessed, for a small fee. (I had no idea they charged for such things. Perhaps I should have paid more attention in my Comparative Religions class back in high school, but I was probably infatuated with the cute boy two rows over.)

      Now, this new knowledge of your plumbing fortitude. This house I live in, though loved dearly, has eternal and annoying plumbing issues, many of which have been chronicled on this very blog during times of self-pity. Perhaps I could interest you in some contractual consulting? 😉


      • That reminds me of my first year lit survey class at University of Chicago. An early reading assignment was from the New Testament. When the professor started lecturing, he must have noticed the furious note-taking of his students (who, with the exception of my roommate Mud—short for Madonna Marie Murphy—consisted almost entirely of Jews and Asians). Clearly, it was the first any of them had heard of this story, so he was forced to provide a New Testament synopsis. At the end, one Japanese student raised her hand. “That,” she declared flatly, “Makes no sense whatsoever.”

        My plumbing expertise, on the other hand, makes perfect sense. Our house was a Victorian, with four bathrooms—and more importantly, four kids. Of course I was a toilet expert! Sadly, that expertise is now worthless, because I discovered that British toilets actually work on a “different” (yes, I restrained myself from adding words like insane/stupid/pathetic/inefficient/WTF?) setup. Sometimes, though, late at night, I YouTube those fabulous adverts for American toilets flushing bags of golf balls…

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        • Despite the beguiling nature of everything that you have shared in this joyous comment, I cannot get beyond my new fixation that I simply must meet someone who has been nicknamed “Mud”. I feel as if my life would be transported in some way and I would no longer feel downtrodden by ancient plumbing…

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  2. Must pop round for a chat on the deck one day- seems like you have plenty of chairs- and I could do with a good laugh which is exactly what I get every time I dip into your blog.

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  3. “I claw my way through the mass of unwashed hillbillies and their inbred offspring, all of them fondling a John Deere riding lawn mower like they’ve just seen Jesus in the oil spill under it.”

    You’ve got such a phenomenal way with words, especially when it comes to really painting a priceless picture!

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  4. Lol! We gave hillbillies here in Oregon too. But they seem to prefer Home Depot. The Home Depot and the Lowes are right next to each other. I mean mere feet apart, like suburban ranches in new subdivisions.

    I have overheard chair conversations exactly like this one. I always think, my gawd, people, they’re chairs. 😀 But i’m not stylish, really, and prefer comfort over looks.

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    • And really i should pay more attention. More often my husband comes home with something more or less okay, but not great and says, but sweetie! I got a deal! Lol. I just roll my eyes and go along with it. It’s easier.

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    • We have the same thing here in Dallas, with Lowe’s and Home Depot built as near as possible to each other. I really don’t get that. Space yourselves out a little bit and I would imagine the income would increase. But nobody asks me about such things. I was initially a Home Depot acolyte, eons ago when I first bought my home, but I soured on them after their reprehensible union-busting efforts and the fact that they allow open-carry of guns. (Perhaps this is just the Texas situation, but still.)

      And yes, I have long since given up style in favor of comfort. Hip and cool is fun when in your youthful days. It becomes meaningless as the decades whip by…

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      • Yeah, comfort is a lot better for those aging, popping joints of mine.

        Wow! We don’t open carry at Home Depot here. But this is Oregon, not Texas. We are deep blue here around Portland, west of the Cascades. But the eastern part of the state is like Idaho and Wyoming. Deep red. But we also stopped going to Home Depot, partly because of the other reason you mentioned. That union busting bullshit.

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