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Dispatches from the Wasteland: We Hold These Truths to Be Self-Evident

Note: I have to report for jury duty tomorrow, which reminded me of a sordid epic I shared a decade or so ago. So, I dug into the archives, dusted things off, and vainly tried to patch up the leaky parts. (Fair warning: This is the beginning of another diatribe from my Mean Girl period.) Here we go…


None of us, of course, are ever completely thrilled when we receive a jury summons in the mail. Even those people who rightly consider jury duty to be a responsibility that you should embrace (and I do), there’s still that sinking feeling when you flip past the electric bill and the exuberant credit card offer to find the official letter with the county seal.

I got that sinking feeling a few weeks ago. And this morning, I carried out my civic duty. Which means, of course, that it ends up in the blog. You latch on to material whenever you can find it, right? And what could be more interesting and fun than a running commentary on governmental inaction? (Perhaps you don’t need to answer that, just keep reading.)

I’ve had my fair share of experiences passing judgment on my supposed peers, including a few cases where we ended up (gulp) actually sending someone away to prison for an extended visit. Despite the strength in your belief of the defendant’s guilt, there’s still an odd aftertaste when you make a decision that so strongly affects another person’s life.

This particular session, however, proved to be a little different from my previous frolics in the court system pool. For one, this was a summons to “Municipal Court”, rather than the “Criminal Court” flavor I had tasted in the past. Frankly, I had no idea what the difference entailed. Somewhere, my junior high Civics teacher is shaking his head in shame. (I’m sorry, Mr. Gatewood. It’s just that there’s been a lot of beer consumed since my over-achieving days as an eager student. Things happen, poor choices are made, life goes on.)

Adding to the Municipal Mystery was the realization that I was expected to report for duty at a building that I did not recognize at an address that was not familiar. As instinctively happens in this digital age, I got online for some research, and find that I will be reporting to a structure smack in the middle of downtown Dallas.

I quietly groaned.

For those of you unfamiliar with this beast, one does not just go wondering into the heart of urban Dallas without some kind of plan. It’s a crazy place, what with all the one-way streets that do not run in straight lines, instead wandering all over the map, presumably the result of somebody pouring asphalt on top of ancient cattle trails that made sense to livestock but not actual people.

Then there’s the particular flavor of the area, a sensation that is not necessarily unique to Dallas, since I’m sure the same thing has happened or is happening to any number of large cities across the nation. Downtown Dallas went through some hard times, with many big companies fleeing for the suburbs, once-stately buildings falling into disrepair, and a growing avoidance of downtown by well-mannered people who did not wish to endure the striking image of lost souls peeing in the streets.

But after years of hard work by well-intentioned leaders and average citizens, downtown Dallas is making a very respectable comeback. There are actually many sections that have been deemed hip and trendy, with condos in fabulously-restored buildings selling for outrageous amounts and upscale eateries throwing open their ornate but rusty doors.

There are still some rough spots, questionable areas that are not only dirty but potentially dangerous. Which is why you must pay attention to where you’re going and how you’re going to get there. I cannot stress this enough. It is critical to your survival, or at least to your arriving at the new sushi joint without a distracting mugging as an appetizer.

One minute you can be rolling down a very pleasant thoroughfare, with intriguing shops and fascinating architecture and clean-smelling people. The very next minute, after an ill-advised turn, you may find yourself on a crumbling street lined with crack-houses, poorly-trained prostitutes with stability issues, and rude people who yell, throw things about, and aggressively solicit donations to questionable charities, namely themselves. Not an appealing scene, unless you’re Quentin Tarantino, scouting location shots for his next movie, “Carnage with an Attitude – Part 2: I’m Still Relevant Even if You Don’t Think I Am”.

After reviewing the online maps and realizing that my jury-duty destination was in an area where available parking might be in short supply, I decided to take the DART Rail to the stop nearest the courthouse, and then hoof it along what looked to be four blocks. I vaguely recognized some of the streets as being part of the theater district. Great. Surely there would be a roving pack of high-strung queens that would protect one of their own should trouble arise. I could now submit my flight plans and prepare for departure.

Early this morning, I reported to the nearest DART rail station. Luckily, this is only a short distance from our house. As I pulled into the parking lot, I wondered for the hundredth time why we don’t use the rail system more often. The station is close, the rail lines are fairly extensive, with a surprising number of strategic stops, and the rail cars are generally well-kept. And it’s cheaper than driving.

It did not take me long to remember why we avoid the trains, instead choosing to remain in our personal vehicles, sealed off from humanity, polluting the environment and strangling the lush forests where Bambi used to play before receiving the unfortunate news that Mama Doe might be a bit late for dinner.

It’s the people on the trains, not the trains themselves. These folks are annoying, especially since they’ve got to realize just how annoying they are, and yet they continue with the annoyance anyway. They seem intent on ratcheting the Irritation Factor into the stratosphere, hell-bent on some personal, demonic need to piss of the entire planet with their very existence.

Then again, perhaps these miserable excuses for human beings really don’t understand the unattractiveness of their words and actions. I suppose that’s possible. Maybe they were raised by wolves, somehow, despite the amazing depletion in wildlife in our country after a couple of morally-reprehensible reigns by Secretaries of the Interior, hired despite dubious qualifications, who then proceeded to destroy the very thing they should be protecting. (Wow, that Norma Rae moment came out of nowhere. Still mean it, though. Word.)

If that’s the case, then, where we have idiots that just don’t understand how to behave in a social setting, let me offer a few guiding principles. We’ll call this manifesto “What One Should NOT Do Whilst Traveling by Public Transportation”.


1. As you wait for the train to arrive, do not take up a position right next to decent people who have already selected a waiting spot. There are plenty of places on the platform to stand. Go choose one that’s a little bit further away from me. I don’t want you in my personal space. If my elbow can possibly bump against you when I check my watch, you’re too close. Otherwise, I’m going to learn things about you that I don’t need to know.

Likewise, you have complete ownership of your own hygiene routine. If you have failed in your supposed attempts to minimally hose yourself down every once in a while, other people should not have to suffer. Go stand downwind where there is less of a likelihood that you will commit involuntary manslaughter by raising your arm and sending a noxious wave of death billowing towards those around you. Better yet, go back to the third grade and watch those health films that you apparently didn’t take seriously the first time.

And don’t you dare ask me for money. I will shove you on to the tracks with no guilt whatsoever. I do NOT have a solid quarter.

2. Rule number one also applies once we are onboard. If there is an available seat anywhere on the entire train aside from the vacant one next to me, go find that other seat. It doesn’t matter if you have to traipse through several cars to find it. I’m all about embracing humanity, except when it comes to sharing my real estate. We all have our little quibbles.

3. If there are no available seats, forcing you to stand and grip one of the hand rails, do so with discretion and at least minimal skill. Do not glare at me in my comfy seat. I can’t help it if you were slow and wandered onto the train at the last minute. Perhaps if you hadn’t been yakking on your cell phone and arranging a drug deal instead of noting train arrivals, you wouldn’t be in this position. I know your Momma raised you better than this. Unless she’s your dealer.

Once you’ve selected a pole to grip with your dirty little hand, keep your body under control and watch what you’re doing. I don’t need your butt in my face. You might be proud of this particular aspect of your anatomy, based on the way you are slinging your Private Portal about with abandon, but the rest of the train is not. In this particular case, we are not the world.

And this might come as a shock to you, but you know those moments where the train suddenly slows down or speeds up? This is the part where you tighten your grip on the pole. I know it’s a little confusing, since you refused to pay attention when your underpaid high-school teacher tried to teach you “science,” but trust me on this. It’s going to happen, and you should remain alert. If you stupidly lose your grip and bust your beloved ass, you’re on your own. I will ignore you and let you writhe in the grime of the floor, and then calmly step over you when we get to my stop.

4. This is not a slumber party. We’re all tired, and the trip can get a little boring. This is not justification for you to lean your head against the window, stretch your feet across the aisle, and then start sawing logs, pawing at your crotch as you dream about lascivious activities with people who would never want you in real life. This is too personal and extremely annoying.

5. If you insist on bringing small, excitable children with you, do your best to maintain the illusion that these rambunctious urchins were raised in a suitable manner. Don’t let them repeatedly shout the same phrases, such as “Is THIS our stop?” or “That lady has a big head” or “I saw Daddy’s thingy!”. These are phrases best saved for group therapy sessions. If necessary, administer calming medication to regain control of the situation. If you have extra medication, and I know you do, give it to me.

6. Pay attention and be prepared to exit the train in an efficient manner when it’s your time. Don’t leap up at the last second, as the doors are closing, screaming for someone to hold said evil doors while you gather up all the pointless things you brought with you. This is unacceptable. The soothing Announcer Lady tells you what station is next. There should be no surprises. It’s not a roulette wheel where you don’t have a clue about the next stop.

7. Don’t play the innocent game when they do those random checks for tickets, getting an attitude while pretending to search for your stub. We know you didn’t pay. Get the hell off the train.

8. Do NOT push the “emergency” button when you’re ready to get off. It’s not your personal hotline to the conductor. There are no alterations to the route. The train stops in the same places every time. That’s why those places are called “stations”.

9. Use your Inside Voice. There’s no need to yell out the sordid details of your boring life, babbling about people who are dealing with surprise pregnancies, blocked bowels, unexpected employment terminations or the amazing realization that bill collectors are actually serious about that collecting angle. The people right next to you can hear you just fine if you speak in a normal tone. And if your immediate neighbors are not the intended target of your grating vocalizations, then go sit by your intended conversation partner and whisper quietly. Better yet, just shut up.

And finally…

10. Don’t even consider talking to ME. Ever. Even if I know you. I’m all about embracing humanity. But there are limits, and one of them is my patience.

My ranting thoughts are interrupted by a train pulling into the local station. As the chaos of stupid people bubbles around me, I climb aboard and begin my journey into the Heart of the Dallas Darkness…


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Originally published in “The Sound and the Fury” on 03/15/10. Considerable changes made, although I wasn’t able to fully wash the Mean Girl scent out of my hair.

Story behind the photo: This is an extreme close-up of one of the houses in the latest rendition of my Christmas Village. I’m not completely sure why I selected this one, but I think the combination of weirdness and prison bars spoke to me in some way about the judicial system in America…


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  1. And you have highlighted why I rarely will choose to embrace public transportation. I will go hungry for two days to afford gas for my guzzling car, and pay the obscene rates they charge for parking, in order to avoid sharing my space with others. Especially others I don’t know, don’t want to know, and who may have the physical ability to take me in any kind of a fight, never mind a fair fight.

    Meanwhile, I hope your current adventure into serving jury duty went the way you would wish.

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    • Introverts unite! Our next meeting is tomorrow night at 7. Please bring donuts.

      As for my current summons, things went swimmingly. We had to sit around for a bit, but eventually they released all of us, as no pending cases that day resulted in an actual trial. I’m happy to serve, but I’m more happy to flee… 😉


  2. I probably shouldn’t confess that I don’t mind public transport. Sometimes I even like it. I can travel all over Sydney (ferries, trains and buses) for $2.50 a day. A ferry is a great way to explore Sydney Harbour.

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    • Oh, I don’t mind it, either. We actually ride the rail whenever possible here in Dallas, even if there’s a bit of trudging about to get to the right stations, as we need the exercise and the planet doesn’t need the pollution. It’s just that I have to find something to whine about in my blogs or it wouldn’t be Bonnywood… 😉

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  3. The last time I used public transportation was when I was in Boston. That red line/Harvard stop would take you anywhere you wanted to go. It cost a quarter (shows my age) and I knew exactly where to stand on the platform to have a door right in front of me. I loved it.
    Jury duty…I have never been called for jury duty. Everyone else in my former family was, but not me. Maybe that was because I never registered to vote. I had too many children…or had to work…Loser never seemed to have a problem registering. Oh yeah…that’s because I was babysitting. LOLOL
    Even if I had been called, I would have immediately been disqualified due to Loser’s occupation. Now…I won’t be called unless I request it…because I’m “too old.” Again, LOLOL

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    • I got called up about every other year. My last name is at the beginning of the alphabet. And in Utah? They go by the DMV records. The last time I was called, in about 1999 or so, I played the handicapped and unable to endure the ‘stress’ of serving. Backed it up with a doctor’s note and I’ve never been called since. I think they sort of black list you or something…

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  4. I used to have to rely on public transportation due to a large misunderstanding with the long arm o’ the law. I didn’t enjoy it much, but it did provide me with probably much needed exercise. And there were highlights (or low lights if you choose to see them that way): The guy, clearly flying high all on his very own, who tried having ear sex with every female within reach. He was semi-standing in the aisle and NOBODY would let him sit by them. He kept repeating how very horny he was. TMI personified, as well as redundant. We all KNEW that. This was on a New Year’s bus (my bad for using it) and when the drunk/stoner got to MY ear? I pulled that stop cord with such ferocity, it’s still amazing it didn’t pull right out of the wall and told my frustrated lover of all things aural, that if he didn’t want to lose his stick, he best move it along. I then threw the drunken bastard under the bus (figuratively) by ratting him out to the driver. The driver threw him (literally) OFF the bus. It had begun to snow and as our bus o’ good will pulled away, the drunk was trying to fuck an oak tree (true. Sad, but very true). The driver called the cops on him.

    Then there was the insane guy. Different bus though. This guy was scary. Wandering up and down the aisle of the bus, growing angrier and angrier at someone nobody else could see, and having a heated discussion with his invisible friend. The bus driver threw that guy off the bus too.

    I can say I don’t much miss those days. And Baby (my car) is a lot less expensive to utilize than what the UTA (Utah Transit Authority) charges. It’s spendy.

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    • Yep, it sounds like you wouldn’t have a particularly festive time riding the DART rail in Dallas. The folks you’ve just described are on every train, in some form or fashion. Way back in the day, I would be greatly unsettled by these people. But I’ve done it for so many years now that (despite this post), none of it really registers with me anymore unless the commotion makes me lose my place in whatever book I’ve dragged along for the journey. Full disclosure, though, I’ve never seen someone hump a tree. At least not whilst on the DART rail. I’m sure it happens, but I’ve not been privy to such a spectacle. Most importantly, and comfortingly, there’s lots of security on the Dallas trains, hopping on and off as the train travels. You might have to put up with a jackass for a stop or two, but eventually there’s a Come to Jesus meeting…

      And DART is cheap. You can get an all-day pass for five bucks and go just about anywhere…

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      • Hubby and I went to San Francisco on one of his coastal trips, and I rode B.A.R.T. I don’t recall any weirdos as such, but hubby was what you’d call a ‘burly guy’ and I suspect the rowdy bent on mischief avoids such people. Which may be why you’re left in relative peace. Going under the bay on B.A.R.T. was an experience.

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    • So you’re selective in your potential doling out of retribution? I know a certain American political party that would love to send you a membership card. Said with tongue in cheek and a bit of jazz hands… 😉


    • Downtown Dallas really is a mind-twist of a place to be. So many different elements of society slamming up against one another. I’m all for the melding of the cornucopia of cultures, but there are times when I must admit that I don’t really understand all of the ingredients… 😉

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  5. Though I’m not one who eagerly uses public transit, I have to admit I kind of enjoy it when I do. If only because it gives me ample blog material. 😉
    One of my chief complaints that strangely didn’t appear on your list: When the bus driver keeps hitting on me. Don’t you hate it when that happens?

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    • Oh, keep reading if you are interested in some unrequited and potentially-aggressive flirting. I somewhat hate it when that happens, but I must also fess up that there is a small part of me that relishes the attention in a validation sort of way. But there is a line in the sand that shouldn’t be crossed…

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  6. I had no idea you lived near Dallas! That is near my hometown, a suburb 30 minutes away. I had to be summoned to jury duty downtown as well. I know exactly what you mean as you are describing stark differences between certain areas of town. I once had to run some errands at a government office. As I walked across the street, a man stops to ask me if I have any money because he just got out of prison! I shook my head and quickly walked back inside the Subway where witnesses were present. I have to keep my head down low and dress down in public transport while travelling with DART. I need a bubble around me as well…

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    • Isn’t it interesting how Dallas is such a patchwork quilt of humanity? I suppose that’s good in one sense, but there are times when one doesn’t need to see all the colors of the rainbow, so to speak. (And what’s up with all the panhandlers in Dallas? There’s supposedly a law against that, but you wouldn’t know it by the continual number of times that people on the streets have approached me with their clearly not-true lies about personal funding that they need.) Still and all, I’d much rather have a melting pot rather than just one item on the menu of life…

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